Signed My Will – Now What?

If you have had a will prepared and signed it with the appropriate formalities, don’t allow communicationsyour family to be the one calling the attorney and saying, “Dad said he had a will, but we cannot find it.”

Family communication is key to many aspects of life and estate planning. If your will leaves your estate in a manner that might seem strange to your family, be sure to tell them ahead of time. Don’t surprise them with a substantial bequest to unfamiliar friends or charities unless you have told them ahead of time. Don’t appoint an unusual executor, trustee or guardian unless you have told family members ahead of time. If you don’t communicate, family members are likely to challenge the will, quarrel among themselves, or have long term strained relationships.

Another key communication issue is to tell your family members, especially the executor, where the original of your will is kept. You might have it in a bank safe deposit box that will never be found. Or it might be thrown out with a bunch of miscellaneous papers that no one thought was important. Be sure the file or envelope you have it in is appropriately and conspicuously labeled and at least a couple trusted people know where it is. If you have no trusted friends, consider filing your will with the county clerk.

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Is It Really a Free Dinner???

Have you received the mailings or seen the notices in your local newspaper or periodical?  Free Lunch Seminar on the Critical Elements of Estate Planning.  Free Dinner (at a fancy restaurant) on what you need to know to maximize your government benefits.  These and similar offers usually focus on the great dinner you will get or the intriguing topics, but only in the smallest of print at the bottom of the page give you any hint as to who might be giving you this information.

trap-860x450_cThe one I recently saw caught my attention because it included a statement that “Financial Professionals, Insurance Agents and Attorneys will be charged a $2500.00 educational fee.”  Let me tell you, each of those professions put on hundreds of educational programs for their members every year and even the more expensive of them are frequently priced at a tenth or less of that figure.  The real translation of that statement is “We don’t want educated people who might be able to poke holes in our presentation to attend.”

That should concern you.  Groups like this want to get you one-on-one to pressure you into spending much more money than you need to spend for something you will likely be left not understanding, but feel like you got all your needs covered.  Or they are primarily interested in getting you to move your investments to their company so they can charge you ongoing fees.

I am not saying all of these seminars are bad.  I have seen some good informational presentations, but you need to understand that most likely there is going to be some sort of sale presentation included – immediately or as a follow up.  And you should investigate the qualifications of the presenters.  Is a financial person advising you on estate planning laws?  Is a lawyer talking about how to manage your money?  Are the presenters experienced in the field in which they speak?

Bottom line, there is no truly free dinner.  Be cautious.  Investigate who you are dealing with before you accept what they say or pay them any money.  And take your time before moving forward with any decision.

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Have You Protected Your Digital Assets?

Digital assets are fast becoming one of the most valuable parts of many people’s estates.  The following column alerts us to ideas for protecting those assets when we

Don’t leave grieving relatives searching for your passwords: Here’s how to organize your digital life before you die

There was a time when you didn’t worry much about your email account, or the website you bought years ago, or your usernames and passwords for various financial and other accounts.

But now you do. Now you must make sure that your loved ones have access to your digital assets should you die.

“Digital assets are becoming more and more prominent parts of people’s estates – they just can’t be ignored anymore,” says Karen Van Voorhis, a certified financial planner with Daniel J. Galli & Associates.

So how do make sure your digital assets don’t die with you?

Here’s what experts say:

Put digital assets into your estate plan

Almost everyone neglects to consider this, no matter their age, says Kashif Ahmed, president of American Private Wealth.

“Make provisions in your will to authorize your designated executor to be able to retrieve your digital assets, and also to be able to shut down your digital accounts, especially social media such as Facebook.”

Ahmed has witnessed “horror stories” of social media accounts remaining active long after someone has died being taken over and “used” by someone else.

Barbara O’Neill, the CEO of Money Talk, recommends completing a digital assets inventory worksheet and sharing it with trusted individuals such as your spouse and the executor of your estate. An example can be found at

A word of caution: Expect this task to take several hours to confirm usernames and passwords, says O’Neill.

And don’t overlook any account, says Van Voorhis.

“Accounts with an actual monetary value like PayPal or Venmo are actually includable in your estate, and someone needs to know how to access them if something happens to you,” she says.

And when it comes to language in your will, Judson Meinhart, a certified financial planner with Parsec Financial, says a “broad, catchall statement regarding the distribution of your digital assets – or the inclusion of them in your estate – is your best friend.”

Use a password management tool

Leveraging a service like LastPass, Dashlane, or Password Boss provides a convenient means for inventorying all your online accounts and can also help you create more secure passwords, says Meinhart.

Make sure too, says Thomas Murphy, a certified financial planner with Murphy & Sylvest that someone else – your designated executor or financial power of attorney, knows how to access those tools.

When available, Meinhart says the best option is to use service providers’ own account tools.

“These tools are unique to the individual service provider – Google, Facebook, PayPal, etc. – and provide the user with a variety of options, from naming a legacy contact who will be provided limited access to an account, to the outright deletion of your account and data if your account remains inactive for a certain period of time,” he says.

Create a digital vault

Dana Menard, the founder and CEO of Twin Cities Wealth Strategies, gives all his financial planning clients their own “digital vault” in which they can store all of their important documents like their estate planning documents, mortgage paperwork, copies of personal identification, credit cards, pictures and even family recipes.

“Everyone is living in a more digital world and when an older adult passes away it can be a lot easier for the next generation to access everything they need in a singular location without having to physically track everything down,’ says Menard. “It also gives us the ability to have those difficult discussions with our clients and their heirs.”

For her part, Van Voorhis recommends Everplans, a site meant to help people group all their important information in one place – including usernames and passwords. Users can assign a “deputy” who can also access all their information.

“It’s great not only for digital assets but also for organizing medical, health, home, insurance, tax and other information,” she says.

Robert Powell, CFP, is the editor of TheStreet’s Retirement Daily ( and contributes regularly to USA TODAY. Got questions about money? Email Bob at


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Does Your Will Need To Be Updated?

will-oldI will occasionally have clients who wish to probate the will of a deceased parent or spouse, only to find that the will is very old; I think about fifty years old is the oldest I’ve had. This frequently causes difficulty in probate since many of the assumptions used in making the will are no longer valid, property addressed in specific bequests has become difficult to identify, and persons designated to serve as executor and trustee or to receive bequests may no longer be alive. Additionally, many times these wills were made under laws that have been drastically changed over the years or were made under a different state’s laws.

For example, just twenty years ago the large majority of estates were likely to be subject to estate taxes.  But the current estate tax exemption amount is over $11 million per person.  So all of the estate tax avoidance provisions in old wills is no longer necessary and can cause serious issues with distributing an estate.

So how old is your will? Does it need to be updated or at least reviewed by an attorney to ensure it will be as effective as you wish it to be?

This topic came to the forefront of my thought when I received an email from another attorney asking if I’d ever had a will older than the ones he found (some over 3000 years old).  While not as old as the ones he found, this article may tickle your funny bone with strange bequests.

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Dealing With an Elderly Driver

This subject isn’t exactly estate planning, but it is something an increasing number of clients face.  I saw this article on the topic of dealing with parents or other loved ones who are losing their ability to drive safely and how you convince them it might be time to stop driving.  First and foremost, prepare before bringing up a very sensitive subject.

elderly-driver(ARA) – When families are gathered together this holiday season, you may start to notice changes in an older relative’s driving behaviors and begin to have some concerns. You are not alone.

With the number of drivers 70 and older increasing – and one in five Americans caring for an older loved one – the number of adults dealing with concerns about their older relative’s driving abilities is on the rise and many are unsure on how to address their concerns.

Resist the temptation to bring up this sensitive topic: Do your homework first

“Taking time to prepare can alleviate concerns and help you start out on the right foot with a thoughtful, positive conversation,” says Jodi Olshevski, an expert on aging for The Hartford, an insurance company. “Once you get the facts and educate yourself about the resources available, you will be in a better position to help.”

Just because your loved one is older, it doesn’t automatically mean you should be concerned about their ability to drive. Plenty of people over the age of 70 get around just as easily as their more youthful counterparts.

If you’re worried, you should find out if your concerns are valid. Learn the warning signs, get in the car and observe the older driver. “Choose the right messenger – the person who has the best rapport with the driver, and choose the right time – which is most likely not during family gatherings,” says Julie Lee, vice president of the AARP Driver Safety Program.

Warning signs

If you’re concerned about your loved one’s ability to drive, the first thing you should do is get in the car to observe them firsthand. A comprehensive list of warning signs for older drivers and other resources for older drivers can be found at Here are some examples of the types of things you may want to look for:

Fairly minor warning signs: Vehicle dents and scrapes that weren’t there before, single mistakes that appear to be more of a fluke than a pattern.

More serious warning signs: Trouble making left-hand turns, driving in the wrong lane of traffic, stopping in traffic for no reason, consistent and frequent mistakes.

“Making a single, minor driving mistake doesn’t mean that a person needs to stop driving,” says Olshevski. “Families need to look for patterns of warning signs and an increase in frequency and severity of the warning signs.”

Initiating the conversation

Ideally, families should initiate the first conversation about safety long before driving becomes a problem, advises Lee. Car accidents, near misses, self-regulation of driving and health changes all provide opportunities to talk about driving skills.

There’s nothing that can make this conversation an easy one, but there are ways you can promote productive dialogue. If you determine that there’s reason for concern about your loved one’s ability to drive, approaching the situation in a thoughtful and nonthreatening way is important.

“Comments about how much more congested traffic has become recently or about an accident in the news can be a good way to start a conversation about driving safety,” says Lee.  In addition to offering safety courses for older drivers at, AARP also offers an online seminar for those who may need to approach the topic of driving with older family members at

Starting the conversation is often the most difficult part and your approach can set the tone for how it proceeds. Here are a few suggestions for starting the conversation in a nonthreatening way that will make the older driver more comfortable expressing his or her feelings.

* “Did you hear about the car accident in the news today?”
* “Have you asked your doctor about the effects of your new medication on your driving?”
* “That was a close call yesterday. I worry about your safety on the road.”
* “I’m worried about you getting in a car accident with all the ice and snow on the road.”
* “I’m glad that you’ve cut down on night driving. I would never want you to drive when you’re not comfortable or feel that it’s too risky.”

Some other tips for a productive conversation include:
* Prepare for the conversation and do your homework.
* Choose the right messenger and the right time.
* Be supportive, positive, factual and nonthreatening.
* Have transportation alternatives ready.
* Note that it might take more than one conversation to address the issue. Let the person know you’re there whenever he or she is interested in chatting about the subject.

Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all solution when addressing problems your older driver may be having behind the wheel. Some issues can be remedied with improvements in physical fitness, increased attention and driving safety classes. Other situations may call for more immediate action.

To learn more about initiating a productive conversation about driving with your loved one, visit The Hartford’s website and download a free guidebook titled “We Need to Talk: Family Conversations with Older Drivers.”

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